Touch. Touch people. Touch animals. The only way to be sure someone or something exists is to touch it. Research has shown that infants who do not get held have a higher mortality rate than those who get touched. And this need never ends. Just because you no longer are a baby doesn’t mean your need for touching has diminished. Studies have also shown that when we pet dogs and cats, our blood pressure goes down. Touching is imperative for wellness. So, give and/or get three hugs a day. And don’t hesitate to lightly touch someone’s shoulder when conversing.
Develop an intimate relationship with another person or at least be open to the option. Caring for someone and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with the person brings more facets of who you are to the surface and more joy than can be described.
Have access to someone who will listen and not try to give advice. We each need someone who will let us talk and talk and ramble until we come to terms with what is happening and then begin to work through it.
Spend time with people who enhance you, who bring out all that is good in you. Don’t waste your time with those who drain and deplete you. You are influenced by those with whom you spend time and listen to. There are enough people in the world for you to find a few who are good for you. You do take on the attitude of those with whom you spend time.
Take time for recreation. Recreation involves re-creating, recharging. When you relax and engage in activities you enjoy, you are not wasting time. You need a balance of work and recreation for stability and mental wellness.
Free yourself from all addictions. Stop smoking. Don’t take recreational drugs. Cut down on refined sugar, milk chocolate, salt, etc. Addictions limit your freedom of choice. And to be at peace with yourself, you must be a free agent.
Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown
OnlineandTelephoneCounseling.com
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