When Choices Reflect Your True Self, They Flow From You

Although we rarely think of it, we spend our lives making choices.  Each moment of every day we are choosing.  The question becomes, how do we know what choices are best?  The answer is that all our choices are a reflection of whom we are – our norms and values.

Our True Self, the person we know we are when we are uninfluenced by others or our ego, knows the answers to questions because this self is the one we hear when we listen without distraction.  It is the self that responds from what we call the “gut” instinct.  It is the deeply human part of us that knows what is right and wrong,  good and evil; that is unaffected by the current social mores or any other external forces.

So, when presented with a dilemma, question, or situation, all you need to do is go within yourself, becoming deaf to distractions, and listen to what your inner self, your True Self, is telling you.  By doing this, your choice will freely flow from you.

Copyright 2011  Lynn Borenius Brown


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Change Is Inherent in Life

Each morning, most of us start out with a plan for how we want, expect, our day to evolve.  However, fairly quickly we discover that our idea of how life should be is not as it turns out to be.  And then, we feel powerless.


It is important to remember that everything in life is always evolving, shifting, moving.  We expect what we like to remain and what we don't like to stop.  However, neither of these is true.  Change is what allows the future to exist.


So, keep in mind that because we are always in flux we should look for the changes, seek them out, and embrace them as opportunities.  Change is life, life is change.


Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown


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The Mind Cannot Tell The Difference Between a Strongly-Held Belief and Reality

As we go through our day, we usually don't think too much about what reality is.  We just move from one experience to the other assuming we are viewing and dealing with the world as others do.

However, it is important to remember that our beliefs about life greatly influence how we see and respond to what happens in our world.  Our strongly-held beliefs make our reality what it is to each of us.  There is no one true reality, only what each of us creates by what we have decided is accurate, true, and what our beliefs cause us to see.

So, as you go through your day, be sure to identify for yourself what your strongly-held beliefs are so you can decide if you want to keep them or change them to alter your reality. 

Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown


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Life Is a Process - An Outcome is Merely Another Beginning

It seems there is always something more to do - that the "to do" list is endless.  We can't ever run out of stuff to do.  And usually this is viewed as a negative because we wish that at some point we would be finished.  But, actually it is wonderful that we never get done - that we always have more on our list - because the next thing to do gives us an opportunity to start again; to have another chance at getting it right or doing it better.
When viewed as a process, life feels less like a test and more like so many opportunties to try again to risk, to learn, and to grow.  Our life experiences are not isolated, they flow one to another, allowing for wisdom, for rejuvenation, and for another beginning.

So, remember that you are never finished and that this is a good thing:  than an outcome, a perceived end, is only the start of something that is either a continuation or a chance to learn and improve.  What a relief to know that an outcome is merely another beginning so we are okay.

Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown


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Every Thought Takes You Down a Path Toward Somewhere

Because our minds are always working, we have thousands of thoughts each day.  And while we don't usually think about it, our thoughts are powerful.  This power comes from the fact that each thought is a step that gets laid down in front of us that makes a path taking us somewhere.

Although we live in a world that stimulates us, our reality comes from our thoughts that are the result of our values and norms and from the interpretation of the external stimuli.  We deal with the world based upon our thoughts and, therefore, are limited in our reality.

So, become aware of your thoughts, whether they are the result of habit or you are responding to something outside yourslef.  There is no downtime in your life - each one has an impact upon your life.  Even the most fleeting of these thoughts matters because it leads you toward your future.

Copyright 2011  Lynn Borenius Brown


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