One Benefit to Self-Acceptance is the Freedom to Make Faulty Choices

What is self-acceptance?  It is satisfaction with self; a realistic awareness of one's strengths and weaknesses that results in a feeling of inherent worth.  Self-acceptance allows for the freedom to heal, learn, and grow.  Without realizing inherent worth, one feels unworthy of the gift of achieving in life.

When self-acceptance reigns, there is peace of mind, a calmness that comes from non-judgment that offers opportunities to risk.  The freedom to experiment, to learn, to grow, provides time for successes as well as failures that are acceptable because they are not deemed to represent self-worth.

So, self-acceptance allows you to try what is new, unfamiliar – to take the risks that make life worth living.

Copyright 2011  Lynn Borenius Brown


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Thinking is Always Based in the Past or the Future

We spend our days thinking.  But rarely do we realize that this activity always relates either to the past or the future, even if it is the immediate past or the immediate future.  To ponder this idea feels strange to most of us.  However, it is accurate.  And, all stress comes from thinking because this action makes us aware of the discrepancy between what we expect and what is. 

The reason for contemplating the concept that we spend most of our time in the past and the future is that by doing so we can become aware that we almost never spend time in the present.  And, it is the present that is important; it is what we claim to value to get the most from living.  We want to enjoy our life but if we are never present, how is this accomplished?

The answer is mindfulness; the intentional choice to be aware of the present moment without judgment or evaluation.  

Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown


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Each Problem or Change Is An Opportunity to Learn

We are continually faced with changes that we often view as problems; sometimes because they actually are issues that have arisen.  But often we define changes as problems just because they are changes and we don’t like change.

When faced with either an actual problem or just a change, usually our first response is to ignore it, hoping it will disappear.  However, it is important to accept that these situations are commonplace, are to be expected.  Therefore, we should accept them as a routine part of our lives.  By doing so, we are able to see the problem or change as an opportunity to expand our world; to view life from a slightly different angle, to alter our perceptions – in general, to learn. 

So, use each change or problem as an expected experience that you use to your best advantage by acknowledging it and using it as an opportunity to learn.

Copyright 2011  Lynn Borenius Brown


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Mindful Choices Are Always Simple

When living as your True Self, you become Mindful.  Mindfulness is the state of being aware, acknowledging, and accepting of what the True Self is experiencing.  It is allowing what needs to be heard and lived from without ignoring what you may not what to hear and acknowledge.  It is the staying in the moment despite how it makes you feel.  Mindfulness is living the True Self.

When making choices, it is incredibly easy and tempting to look outward for answers.  And while I am an advocate of utilizing all available, appropriate resources, ultimately we each must listen to ourselves.  However, even then we must be aware that we may be hearing our ego, which tends to be loud and invasive due to overuse.

So, keep your life, and your decision-making, simple by listening for, acknowledging, and trusting that wise, unaffected mindful choice that is clear, simple, and always available.   

Copyright 2011  Lynn Borenius Brown  


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When Choices Reflect Your True Self, They Flow From You

Although we rarely think of it, we spend our lives making choices.  Each moment of every day we are choosing.  The question becomes, how do we know what choices are best?  The answer is that all our choices are a reflection of whom we are – our norms and values.

Our True Self, the person we know we are when we are uninfluenced by others or our ego, knows the answers to questions because this self is the one we hear when we listen without distraction.  It is the self that responds from what we call the “gut” instinct.  It is the deeply human part of us that knows what is right and wrong,  good and evil; that is unaffected by the current social mores or any other external forces.

So, when presented with a dilemma, question, or situation, all you need to do is go within yourself, becoming deaf to distractions, and listen to what your inner self, your True Self, is telling you.  By doing this, your choice will freely flow from you.

Copyright 2011  Lynn Borenius Brown


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Change Is Inherent in Life

Each morning, most of us start out with a plan for how we want, expect, our day to evolve.  However, fairly quickly we discover that our idea of how life should be is not as it turns out to be.  And then, we feel powerless.


It is important to remember that everything in life is always evolving, shifting, moving.  We expect what we like to remain and what we don't like to stop.  However, neither of these is true.  Change is what allows the future to exist.


So, keep in mind that because we are always in flux we should look for the changes, seek them out, and embrace them as opportunities.  Change is life, life is change.


Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown


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The Mind Cannot Tell The Difference Between a Strongly-Held Belief and Reality

As we go through our day, we usually don't think too much about what reality is.  We just move from one experience to the other assuming we are viewing and dealing with the world as others do.

However, it is important to remember that our beliefs about life greatly influence how we see and respond to what happens in our world.  Our strongly-held beliefs make our reality what it is to each of us.  There is no one true reality, only what each of us creates by what we have decided is accurate, true, and what our beliefs cause us to see.

So, as you go through your day, be sure to identify for yourself what your strongly-held beliefs are so you can decide if you want to keep them or change them to alter your reality. 

Copyright 2011 Lynn Borenius Brown


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